Forgiveness is not just a bunch of feel-good words dished out to fulfill all righteousness, but a state of mind. Neither is it a denial of the hurt you feel.
It is much more than that. It is the due acknowledgement of the bitterness within you; and then making a decision to let go.
Nobody said it has to be spontaneous but as long as you want to and take conscious steps towards it, you’ll have the peace you need.
“Forgiveness is an act of the will, and the will can function regardless of the temperature of the heart.”– Corrie ten Boom
Forgiveness is not just a religious principle, it is an obligatory law of nature. Such that going against it poisons what is left of our being.
“Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.” – Buddha
Perhaps if many world leaders do not fancy retributive justice – an eye for an eye – the world would not be in so much chaos and conflicts at the moment. Age-old inter-national conflicts are consistently passed on from one generation to the other.
“An eye for an eye only ends up making the whole world blind.”– Mahatma Gandhi
If the world must heal, then the process begins with you and I. How well do we leave things behind? How far can we actually go forgiving and enduring? How willing are we to appear weak and stupid for forgiving others?
“The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.”– Mahatma Gandhi
It is never easy to patch up that bruised and torn ego but nature has spoken. We have to let go.
From the medical point of view, unforgiveness negatively affects your mental, heart and general health. On the contrary, this is what happens to your health when you choose to forgive:
1. It lowers stress levels.
2. Forgiveness keeps your heart healthy. Grudge increases the heart rates, over works it and could lead to serious heart conditions.
3. Researchers believe that there is a link between forgiveness and chronic pain/anxiety. A study by Duke University Medical Center researchers proves that forgiveness lowers both emotional and physical pain.
4. It lowers your blood pressure.
5. Grudge shortens your life span while forgiveness extends it.
6. It improves sleep and reduces depression symptoms.
7. It lowers cholesterol
There’s no doubt, letting go sets you free and keeps you alive.