We must all die eventually, it is an unshakeable part of life but sometimes someone passes on too soon or too suddenly and leaves behind grieving family or friends that may also be in our own circle of friends, hence, condolence messages.
Condolence messages are expressions of sympathy for a loss and they comes in as very necessary in time of sorrow for a loved one lost. They help the bereaved to know that they are not alone and that there is still light ahead despite the darkness that may surround them in that instant.
That being said, condolence messages are very tricky especially if you have not experienced much loss in your own life. While we cannot wish loss on ourselves just so we can be able to comfort someone else later on, we can learn some basic skills in expressing sympathy.
Share Some Words Of Sympathy:
Just start out by telling the recipient of your sympathy how sorry you are to hear about the loss. Mixed in with whatever words of sympathy you choose should be some sprinklings of positive characters that you know about the deceased.
Example: Really sorry to hear about Jane’s passing. She was a good friend to me, always willing to lend a helping hand.
Express Your Feelings:
You want to sound personal and involved rather than forced, so try to place yourself in the reciever’s shoes and empathize while still relating that you cannot completely understand the loss. Be honest and express your feelings as simply as you can.
Example: I was terribly sad to hear the news, I can’t imagine what you must be feeling.
Add a Word or Two Of Support:
Words of support can seem terribly lacking at times like this but you still need to let the aggrieved know that you are there for them. This will keep the receiver from feeling alone and helpless.
Example: I’m here if you ever need anyone to talk to, don’t think you will ever be a bother.
Close Your Message:
If it’s a message, don’t just end on an abrupt note, always finish off your message so that it reads as complete, it shows that you put considerable thought into it. Sign it ‘Warmly’ or ‘Love’ depending on who will get it.